Why can’t we just be nice to each other?

I’m going to try and keep this short because dwelling on negativity really doesn’t make my life get any better. 

But seriously, I really don’t understand why nowadays, on social media, there is so much hostility and hatred toward people you have never even met. AKA. total strangers. Many people make mean, rude comments, and sneer at one another, at “strangers”

It had never been easier in this day and age to unfriend, unfollow, block, or just simply walk away when you encounter something or someone you strongly dislike. Social media has made ending relationships as fast and painlessly as it could possibly be. 

I mainly use social media to share who I am, what I think, what I do. One thing though, I don’t fake who I am. Another golden rule of mine is, always stay away from other people’s businesses and dramas. I see no point to keep engaging when there is negativity and ill intention. There are millions of things in life to do – many more useful, interesting, and fun things. 

But sometimes hostility from “strangers” came find me, and that boggled my mind. 

I know it’s their problems, it’s not mine. In fact, I try to view these people as they have mental illness; they get joy out of snapping at and being rude to others, just because things are made easier online with no confrontation. They can get away with it very easily, hiding behind their screens. 

What is wrong with being nice to each other, though? I can’t help wondering. This simple social manner and etiquette seem to be ignored easily when it comes to online world. It makes me sad, you guys. But it is what it is. 

Dear Apple Music, I am so sorry, but I’m still in love with Spotify 

Anyone who follows me on Twitter would see a lot of my tweets on this since I found out Apple Music would be made available in Thailand. Currently I am using Spotify, which is not available in Thailand at the moment. I’m still running on my UK account, paying £5 or around 250 Baht a month (Student deal 50% off FTW). Before I left the UK, I made sure I left some ££ in my bank account to last for about 1 year Spotify premium membership. That’s how much I’m in love with it. 

I am certainly not a techie person, just a streaming music active user, so I genuinely don’t care, be it Spotify or Apple Music or any brand, if it makes things easier for someone like me who

1) can’t live without music 

2) very lazy to download stuff

which is pretty much the reason why I love streaming music service so much. I’m SO glad I got to try Spotify when I arrived in the UK, happily pay 250 Baht every month, and use it ALL the time ever since. 

So, this is why I got super excited when I found out Apple music is here for us in Thailand! This would make my life easier since Spotify is not available yet. Some people and friends tried it and raved how awesome it is. This could be even better than Spotify, I thought, and I could switch it, for only 150 Baht a month too! 

I really wanted to like Apple music from the start!

But…I tried, felt disappointed, and still prefer Spotify. 

Here are the reasons why;

Recommended artists

I can’t believe Apple music doesn’t have this function! To me, this is what makes music- streaming AWESOME as I can explore new and interesting artists so much more. It looks like this on Spotify when you search and click on the artist page. 

  

When you click again, it opens another page which allows you to browse more artists similar to the ones you are listening to much easier. Isn’t it super cool!? 

 
I use this feature to discover new music and artists again and again. As an active user who loves to search for new music to listen, this feature is very important for me.
I feel slightly devastated that Apple music doesn’t have this (!!!!!!) To me, this is almost like the main purpose of using streaming service – to easily and conveniently explore new artists and music. 

Albums & Singles

Spotify neatly separates albums and singles of the artist page in different sections, while Apple music mix all albums and singles together, and I don’t like that at all. 

I probably have a slight OCD for music. When I search for the song, sometimes I want to know what album or single it is that song is from. Apple Music feels too messy for me to navigate, while Spotify albums and singles section is very clean and organized = love from me. 

Curated playlists

Another big deal. This is another thing I love about Spotify; “Browse” and “Discover” menu. Check out how cool it is.  

The playlists on the top keep changing depending on the time of the day you check. So you have “Morning” “Afternoon” “Evening” or “Weekend” playlists and a lot more.

  

Not only you can check playlists easily from Browse menu, Spotify also divides playlists by genres AND moods. I personally love the mood ones. It’s pretty cool as it can match music with your feelings at that moment. 

 
“Discover” section below is great too because it matches your music taste to the ones they wanna recommend, or the ones they think similar to your taste. Spotify really tries to make discovering new music much easier. 

  

I am aware that Apple music has these features too. In fact, I heard some comments about how awesome “For you” feature is. But the design looks very confusing to me as they mix both playlists and albums together, like this.

  

Also, I don’t think “For you” can guess my music taste that accurately. I listen to a wide range of music – alternative/indie, pop, electronic, house, soul, R&B, blues, jazz, pretty much a little bit of everything, so I wish For You layout and design could make navigating through different genres of music easier, if they truly intend it to be music “For me” 

I also checked some of Apple curated playlists and feel that they have much less selection than Spotify. But that’s probably because it is still very new and needs some time to improve the playlists. 

Personally I am not that excited about Beats radio as I tend to go straight and find playlists when I want to listen to something new. 

So, that’s just my opinions and feelings, from a normal user’s experience. 

Most likely I could end up using Apple Music, though, when my ££ in UK bank account is all gone. I truly hope Spotify will be launched in Thailand soon. I really, really do. 

Oh, I almost forgot the only thing that makes Apple Music cooler, Taylor Swift (!!!!!) And I’ve been mainly abusing this by listening to “Bad blood” all weekend. 

#Oops #Confession #GuiltyPleasure 

Life Coach

Hung out with my best friend on Friday night at Wishbeer. Fifteen years of friendship, we have grown and changed so much, but it’s always great to see her. Feels like it’s been a while since we sat down talking and sharing stuff going on in our life at the moment. 

And it’s just great when your best friend casually asks “So what book are you reading at the moment?” 

I don’t get asked that very often (or at all). She knows me, you know. 

He is away, and will most likely be away for almost all of July and a bit of August. Although I miss him and cuddling (TMI? Cuddling IS crucial!), I suppose having plenty of Me time can be amazing too (But I miss him and cuddling…….). I even joke that I’m single for a month, and my friend said, “Get on Tinder”

The modern society of dating and relationship is sad, you guys. Just sad. 

Anyway, back to what I wanted to write. Again I updated my friend about my current issue and told her about all the conversations I’ve had recently about career. And she added some of her opinions and shared some experiences. 

(Sometimes I can’t help but think it’s probably not even worth calling it an issue. My life, in general, is great, and I am thankful for it most of the time. I hardly have to worry about external stuff. This internal thinking process could kill me at times, though. Hence, the “issue”) 

First, I can change and switch jobs and do anything. But it would help a lot if I could determine what exactly it is that I wanna go to. The big picture. The goal. So that it could guide me as a direction. Whatever action I do today, tomorrow, 2 or 5 years from now, I can decide if it is going to contribute to that goal in the end. Sure, the goal can be changed as anything in life. But at least if I have something to look forward to, it would help making these small decisions easier today. 

Second, we don’t lose anything but the time. Time is extremely important. It generates experiences, knowledge, and so much more, and we cannot get it back. If I am going to lose anything today, it is time

Third, she did share her experience with the “Life coach” which is like a consulting service, only it’s not for business, it’s for people. These people don’t really suggest anything, but they help you form and clarify your thoughts in a systematic way by asking a lot of questions in order to help you solve your problem. The session is only 40 minutes, but it can be exhausting as you have to share and think hard about the root of your “issues” and then they would try to analyze it for you. 

Apparently, this life coach thing is common for executives; people who have to constantly make decisions and face issues. One course could cost many hundred thousands of Baht. That is quite a lot, so I asked her if she could contact them and ask if they still need more “samples” as I am interested in trying this, even for a few sessions. 

We’ll see how it goes. 

Whew, my blog always sounds so serious, doesn’t it? This is a place I choose to write inner thoughts and opinions that I don’t get to express in everyday life, though. 

In fact, what I do today, Saturday, is far from anything serious. Spending some quality time with mom feels almost like a privilege these days – I took her to the hospital, did hair and nails together, grocery shopping, and even condo checking (!). She bought me a very nice present, a two-month-in-advance birthday present, and I couldn’t be happier. And we (well, she) talked a lot, just like we did every day when I was in high school. My mom has always been my good friend, except we now get to talk much less than we used to. 

On days like this – ordinary day like this – I feel like life is good, everything is fine, and my issue is so small that just the thought of it even feels ridiculous. 

Sometimes I do feel that there is nothing more beautiful than just simple, ordinary days in life, surrounded by people you love and love you. 

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