It’s Sunday, and I chose to stay home all day reading fashion magazine (Cleo. I even subscribe it!), articles from Twitter (read tons of good ones today!), and a new novel, as well as chatting with my mom and brother, and cleaning hair brushes and make-up sponges.
Not exactly an Instagram worthy kind of day.
Earlier my friend and I agreed to cancel our plan to go cafe-ing in Asoke, with the reason that we are too lazy to leave our houses.
It made me feel I’m getting old, when staying home feels more luxurious than going to brunch in a cool cafe.
Damn, didn’t I just miss the opportunity to Instagram my hot latte and Eggs Benedict!? Such a big deal, isn’t it?
I sometimes sneer at and/or make fun of those Bangkokians posting photos of cool restaurants, new bars and chic cafes in town as pretentious; trying to let the world know what a chic, hip lifestyle they possess. Showing off is such a crucial part of Thai society these days. You need to show the world via all possible social media channels that you are always busy, doing interesting stuff all the time, especially in your free time at the newest hangouts in town.
It’s almost impossible to avoid social media these days, as it creeps into our lives so much that it has become another important part of it. We get bombarded by it seeing what our “friends” (HUGE quotation mark here) are up to daily, hence it most likely has enough power to force us to do the same things.
Ironically, I’m probably one of them too (HA), although I don’t think I’m the type that tries too hard.
Since I started working, I somehow enjoy exploring new places to go, much more than when I was in Chula, with limited amount of money (student’s life), but a huge amount of homework, reports, lessons to review on weekends, and no time to chill (Weekends always made me stressed)
Also I stopped hating Bangkok and enjoying living in my city more. Aren’t we great at producing more and more new places to eat and hang out out in this city!? Feel like a shame if I don’t take an advantage of this fact.
It’s all Sabai-Sabai, and Sanook-Sanook in this city of angel, isn’t it?
(Trying hard not to sneer at that sentence)
Anyway let’s get back to other pretentious people stuff.
I have learned that some people, or the majority in the society, extremely pay attention to what other people do, where they hang out, what they wear, and some even try to copy the lifestyles that make them look “cool”
Even though that’s not who they are.
I got asked from a friend once, supposedly I don’t like lobster, but if there were a new, chic lobster place open in town, and everyone has been raving about it and going there, would I go there too?
I said no, why would I go if I didn’t like it?
She said, there are people who would go just to make it look good on their Instagram.
Some people would be willing to give up who they are, in order to look cool.
Read that again. Does anyone feel like it’s a big deal as much as I do?
Hello, Welcome to fake society?
But that’s Bangkok in a nutshell for you, everyone.
Personally, I admire people who stay true to who they are, even though they are different.
I have recently spoken to one of my colleagues; a real sweet girl. She likes to read, cook at home, make her own lunch boxes and bring it to the office every day. When I asked what kind of restaurant she likes to go, she said she doesn’t really go out to eat much. She can eat at normal food courts in Big C or Lotus and that would be fine.
She said, she enjoys simple and basic life.
That is just so cool.
The fact that she simply shares that to me and doesn’t fake who she is makes me feel she’s SO much cooler and also braver than those who go out to eat at stuff they don’t even like just for the sake of that damn Instagram.
I can’t imagine how exhausting it would be trying to fake it and imitate other people’s lifestyles, when you don’t even want it.
But then again, our modern society is also shaped this way. I can’t count the numbers of times some clients quickly check or even stare at the bag I carry, as if they are ready to estimate my value and net worth, based on that damn bag.
Materialistic world. No wonder people are trying so hard persuing materialistic things or luxurious lifestyles to make them feel confident and accepted.
I think it can happen when you are insecure of who you are. Therefore, you need this material “stuff” to make you feel better about yourself which you can show off to other people too.
It’s just sad, you know? Very sad.
It’s really important to stay who you are, when society, social media, and peer pressure try to influence and persuade you to be something otherwise.
I must always remember this. You gotta stay strong.